I don't think he realized how sensitive I would be about it and he apologized....my teeth are now off limits.missing_tooth wrote:Ouch, hope it's resolved shortly. I do think that we all often say mean things with our fulling realizing how cruel our words can be.Last night my hubby and I got into a teeny argument and he called me a brace face and I just broke down in tears.
How do you feel about jokes?
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Yes... this is a delicate subject. It's difficult to know how to react at other people comments or jokes...It depends a lot from the person they are coming from, but, anyway, I feel like there is a thin line between what can cheer us up and what can makes us cry... 
We can't avoid beeing very sensitive at the fact of getting braces, (at least at the beginning of the treatment) since for most of us (as I have been reading here) getting braced means a BIG step in our lives. Many of us have been living very unhappy with our smiles for years.
But most people don't know that. I agree with some posts I read over here that say "people don't notice teeth as much as we believe".
We are very aware of our teeth, and most people, really, don't even notice them and don't have a clue of the amount of hours we spent at the mirror, thinking and feeling a lot of things around this matter, so they say things without even thinking of the consequences.
I'm planning to be serious about what kind of jokes I can cope with, I won't mind to tell people I care that this matter is important to me.
The best jokes we can get, I believe, can come from people who has braces or had been braced in the past...(jokes over here are welcome!!!!
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And, of course, the good intentioned jokes from those we love!
We can't avoid beeing very sensitive at the fact of getting braces, (at least at the beginning of the treatment) since for most of us (as I have been reading here) getting braced means a BIG step in our lives. Many of us have been living very unhappy with our smiles for years.
But most people don't know that. I agree with some posts I read over here that say "people don't notice teeth as much as we believe".
We are very aware of our teeth, and most people, really, don't even notice them and don't have a clue of the amount of hours we spent at the mirror, thinking and feeling a lot of things around this matter, so they say things without even thinking of the consequences.
I'm planning to be serious about what kind of jokes I can cope with, I won't mind to tell people I care that this matter is important to me.
The best jokes we can get, I believe, can come from people who has braces or had been braced in the past...(jokes over here are welcome!!!!
))And, of course, the good intentioned jokes from those we love!
Top braces on: January 9th, 2006. Lowers on February 14th, 2006
Full metalmouth!
I am extremely sarcastic and sometimes mean to the people I like the most. My friends know this and take my (mean-ness) jokes as fun. They know I am being playful. That is how I interact. I also know who can and can't take my jokes. If I don't know you very well, I don't do that.
Maybe your boyfriend's family just feels comfortable enough with you to do what I was describing. Maybe they were just trying to make you feel like one of them. I'm sure they rag on each other like that too.
To me, "boyfriend's family" sounds like dangerous territory. How well do you know these people? Have you been around them much? Ask your boyfriend to explain to them for you that you are sensitive about the subject and that - at least until you are used to them - that the jokes make you uncomfortable.
I started to say something about how you are probably just self concious about the braces, but OF COURSE YOU ARE. We all are to some point. Just some people deal with it better or have a better view of them. I am not embarassed about mine, but I have a very strong personality and am not affected by such matters like some people are. There are still times when I wish that I didn't have them in social situations.
I'm not going to promise everything will be ok. You may HATE the braces. (Did I mention I'm not very good at sugarcoating things?) But then again they may not be that bad for you. Yes, they are going to be uncomfortable and cumbersome. But it is not going to end your life as you know it.
In time, the jokes will just be annoying. "yeah...I havent' heard that one before...."
Make a game of it! Carry around little stars and anyone who comes up with a new joke gets a star!
Maybe your boyfriend's family just feels comfortable enough with you to do what I was describing. Maybe they were just trying to make you feel like one of them. I'm sure they rag on each other like that too.
To me, "boyfriend's family" sounds like dangerous territory. How well do you know these people? Have you been around them much? Ask your boyfriend to explain to them for you that you are sensitive about the subject and that - at least until you are used to them - that the jokes make you uncomfortable.
I started to say something about how you are probably just self concious about the braces, but OF COURSE YOU ARE. We all are to some point. Just some people deal with it better or have a better view of them. I am not embarassed about mine, but I have a very strong personality and am not affected by such matters like some people are. There are still times when I wish that I didn't have them in social situations.
I'm not going to promise everything will be ok. You may HATE the braces. (Did I mention I'm not very good at sugarcoating things?) But then again they may not be that bad for you. Yes, they are going to be uncomfortable and cumbersome. But it is not going to end your life as you know it.
In time, the jokes will just be annoying. "yeah...I havent' heard that one before...."
Make a game of it! Carry around little stars and anyone who comes up with a new joke gets a star!
