kellyb's story (belatedly)

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kellyb's story (belatedly)

#1 Post by kellyb »

Hi all,

Sorry to taking so long to write this. In fact I have been having second thoughts all along since I joined this site whether or not I wanted to share my story. Anyhow, seeing I have gained so much from reading others experiences, I thought it only fair that I share my story which will hopefully one day assist someone else on their journey.

I have had crooked teeth for ever since I can remember but I have grown so accustomed to them that I didn't really toy with the idea of getting braces until about 5 months ago (i will explain this further later on).

Growing up, the only times I can remember ever going to the dentist was when I had a toothache and such dental visit always involved either a filling or an extraction. I can't recall ever going for 6 monthly cleaning until I was an adult. Maybe growing up in the Caribbean it was not seen as a priority to the family at the time. However, even if I had wanted braces at the time, I can't see how my parents would have been able to afford it.

The main issues I have are multiple spaces (top and bottom between the front 6) plus also an overjet. Looking back, I cannot remember ever recieving any negative comments about my teeth/smile during my childhood. Maybe if I had, I would have taken the plunge sooner. I guess I was content.

Likewise, I made it through my teens and 20's with an active social life, have had relationships and a successful career. I have never felt in anyway that my teeth/smile held me back.

Fastforward to October 2011 at the ripe old age of 32 years old, I remember coming back from holiday and posting some pics on facebook as I normally do after any of my adventures. What pushed me over the edge was when I received a private facebook msg from one of my "facebook friends" saying that he noticed I never smile in photos and after he met me in person few years ago, he can only assume it is because of my teeth and he hopes I get them sorted before I am 50 because he would love to see me smile.....

I must say, I didn't even consider this person as a friend, in my opinion he was nothing more than a former work colleague but somehow we have mutual friends and he was a "facebook friend". I was rather angry by his msg but at the time I pretended not to be and politely wrote him back telling him not to worry abt me etc. We had a few msg exchanges throughout the course of the day till eventually he got angry with me as i did imply he had overstepped the mark and should mind his own business.

Anyway, despite all of this, his comments did bother me and I thought to myself, maybe this is what alot of other people are thinking but they are just too coward to say it. Maybe I should thank him for finally making me look at the issue. The day after this whole thing happened, I started doing research online into braces, went to see my dentist few days later and asked him to recommend an othordontist. I immediately booked an appointment but due to my schedule, the date of this appointment was about a month away. In the meantime, I also decided to go and see another othodontist who was offering a free consultation just so I could have more than one opinions. The free consultation went ok but as it was free, it wasn't all that detailed so I thought best to do the full paid consultation with the orthodontist my dentist had recommended before I made a decision.

So November 19, 2011 came and though it was just a consulation, I was really nervous. Went anway, had the 45 mins consultation and must admit, I was rather impressed with the orthodontist and the practice in general. After the consultation was over, he informed me that he would need to do a space assessment, work out the costs and then the treatment plan would follow in the post in a couple of weeks. At that point I felt I wanted to say "yes" straight away, no matter how long it will take and how much it would cost.

It was the first week of December by the time the treatment planned arrived. It basically highlighted all the things we had discussed, explained the risks etc, duration of treatment (18 mos) and cost (£3700). Despite me wanting to say "yes" straight away on the day of the consultation, when I saw the treatment plan I did feel abit overwhelmed and started having second thoughts. I think that 2 week wait did me no good whatsoever. Anyway, I decided to think about it and it was not until about 2 weeks later I built up the courage to contact the orthodontist again. By this time it was actually the week before Christmas and due to the Christmas/New Years holidays, the next available appointment on a Saturday (I can only do Saturdays because of my work schedule) was 2 and a half weeks later on 07th Jan 2012. I decided to book the appointment. The next 2 and a half weeks were like torture. I had sleepless nights and often wonder what the hell have I gotten myself into. Upto the morning of my appointment I considered calling them to cancel. I was so scared. In the end I asked my bf for a lift and decided to go for it. On that day, my lowers were fitted and I must say that walking out of the orthodontist office that day I felt like a burden had been lifted off my shoulder. I can only imagine if I had cancelled the appointment I would continue having sleepless nights until I sorted it.

Had my first adjustment on 18th Feb and my second adjustment and fitting of my uppers yesterday 17th March.

Despite the rollercoaster ride, I think I have made the right decision and hopefully one day I will build up the courage to thank my "facebook friend" for being the driving force that aided in this decision :mrgreen:

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#2 Post by Domino »

Great story, kellyb! Great to finally read it :)

I also rarely ever smiled in photos, and it was one of the issues that made me want to get braces too. I think being conscious about my teeth made me nervous whenever someone put a camera on me. I was never able to smile naturally.

That was quite a surprise about your 'facebook friend' messaging you, but I guess you are indeed glad he did! I wondered sometimes if people felt the same thing about me, but I guess I was saying it to myself enough that no one else needed to. I knew I had a problem with photos, it was just getting the courage (and money) to get it fixed.

Well done for not cancelling and having the courage to go for it! I'm glad we both managed it :)

Thanks for the story! I look forward to discussing our progress together further :)
My Story — Braced on 2 March 2012. 4 premolar extractions. Ceramic/clear uppers, metal lowers. Duration of 2 years.
Currently: Third adjustment 19 June (all teeth bracketed!)


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#3 Post by Bracedforbraces »

Hi Kelly, thanks for sharing your story. Some people can be so insensitive and I think you did well to be so polite to this so called friend! Unfortunately it sometimes takes something like this to spur us into action but I certainly don't think you should ever feel the need to thank that person for your decision to get braces. You chose this brilliant decision yourself and don't give them the credit, someone else might have been as hurt as you and not done anything about it, but YOU made your own choices so you and you only deserve the credit :jump:
I am getting my braces on Thursday and I'm petrified, all of a sudden the thought of being a 34 year old with braces worries me, 18 months of my life in braces seems like a HUGE commitment eeek :?
Have you noticed any changes yet?

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#4 Post by kellyb »

thanks Dom and Bracedforbraces :) your comments do mean alot to me. this is not an easy journey we are on but it does help to have the support this site provided.

yes, i can see some changes on the bottom already. i am attaching a few pics but as they are not at the same angle, don't know if you can tell the changes.
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#6 Post by kellyb »

again....

these 3 were taken yesterday pre adjustment at 10 wks
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#7 Post by kellyb »

hi, it's me again.....last one for now.

these were also taken yesterday post adjustment at 10 wks.
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#8 Post by Bracedforbraces »

The pics are great, I think you have the same braces as I am getting and it was great to see how well they have blended in with your teeth! The white wires look good too, I think my ortho said I would start with metal as its thinner and easier for me to adjust to in the first few weeks. Please keep us updated with your progress :D

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#9 Post by kellyb »

i am wearing 'radiance tooth coloured' braces. my ortho only uses white wire. pls bear in mind though that the white wire does lose its coating after a while. after i had my lowers fitted, most of the coating was gone in about 2 weeks and i had to wait a further 4 weeks before my adjustment. i could have gotten the wire changed free of charge at anytime but scheduling was a problem. my 2nd wire did much better though, maybe because it was thicker and i was also wearing powerchains which might have protected it.

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#10 Post by jem »

Hi kellyb. Your braces look really neat. I hope they are as comfortable as they look and not giving you any pain.

Jem
Sectional brace with Damon clear brackets fitted to front 6 upper teeth 3 January 2012
Brackets added to premolars 2 April 2012
Estimated treatment time originally 6-9 months
. Brace removed on 22 July 2013 after 18 months and 19 days
Now enjoying bonded upper retainer plus part time essix/hawley( I have both)

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#11 Post by smilehope »

Looking good, kellyb. I can only imagine I would have been mortified if anyone had said anything about my teeth. I'm pretty amazed they never did, really. Well done turning it into a positive.
1st Feb 2012 - extraction both upper 2nd premolars
Braced 9th March 2012 - lower metal fixed and upper removable plate
5th September 2012 - bite plate gone, upper ceramic fixed fitted
Estimated treatment time 18-24 months

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#12 Post by kellyb »

these braces are super comfy...i have rarely had to use any wax.

when i had the lowers fitted, i was tenderness free in about 3 or 4 days and within about a week i didn't feel like i was wearing braces. i have only had the lowers for 2 days and they feel fine. still no wax on top yet :shock: . i am still abit tender but it is getting better. if the last couple adjustments are anything to go by, i should be tenderness free by tomorrow/wednesday.

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#13 Post by nogoingback »

just saying hi and congratulations on getting your braces. i am also a londoner and starting next week. not sure if i'm brave enough to post my story and pics yet but will keep an eye on yours for moral support! good luck.
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#14 Post by kellyb »

thanks very much nogoingback :D . it took alot of courage to write this story and post pics and perhaps if i had to show my full face i couldn't have done it. however, as i said in my story, i gained so much from reading others experiences that i felt i should be brave and let my guard down abit.

i joined this site a week after my brace-day and wished i had discovered it sooner so i could have gained some support prior to actually getting braces. i would be lying if i said this was an easy decision to make but at the moment, just over 10 weeks on, i have no regrets. wishing you all the best with your journey and look forward to hearing about it when you feel ready.....no rush :) . it took me over 2 months to get to the stage where i could post this story...

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#15 Post by Bec There »

Welcome Kellyb :) Good on you girl! Congrats on beginning your journey. I myself know it's not easy!!

I'm sorry about what that guy said. I feel the need to apologise for him. I too had people say comments to me about that kind of stuff, and to me it's just downright rude for them to say anything, even if it is true. I certainly know how you feel. :?

I was also picked on in primary school. This one guy started calling me gappy, and shortly it caught on. It was horrible, and embarrassing. I read somewhere that if I ignored them it would grow old and it would stop. And it did after a while, but it forever haunted me!! By highschool, thankfully it had stopped, but everytime someone made a comment about my teeth or laughed it cut me deep. People are cruel. I guess we have these kind of people to thank in a way really, since the problem is being fixed now.

I'll be following your story as mine is very similar. I'm only 2 weeks in, and I can't wait to see results. Keep on smiling girl, the best is yet to come :D

My story is Braces for my spaces II if you're interested at all :)

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