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Re: Can I do it?

Posted: Tue May 14, 2013 4:02 am
by jem
Hey chin up , Eb, you CAN do this!

Best wishes


Re: Can I do it?

Posted: Wed May 15, 2013 11:03 am
by EbonyQ
Yesterday I sent my boss an SMS asking if we could just remove my braces. The dental phobia (ortho phobia) was terrible and I could not stop thinking about removing them, they had to get off my teeth.

Boss had an ortho meeting at our clinic, it was supposed to be finish at 10.15 pm and he said that we could do it after this meeting if I wanted it. Sent Eric an e-mail, telling him that I was on my way to our clinic to remove my braces. I did not know if he would want to see me after the debonding of not, to have an appoitment to see my teeth when the braces was gone.

On my way to work it was first 30 min with buss while crying, and then 30 min with a light train (almost like the underground) with some more crying before I arrived at work. Unfortunately this meeting was far from over at 10.15, they were not finish before 11.10! I could of course wait in the clinic but I did not want other orthos see me crying and with this anxiety, I therefor waited outside. Boss offered me to sit in his car but I wanted the fresh air.

When I arrived at our clinic boss greeted me with a huge smile and offered me some of the left overs from the meeting. I´m sure I looked like a mess with the make up all over my face and those red eyes from crying. The hair... let´s not talk about it...

I made the chair ready for my own debonding and could almost not remember what was needed in a debonding, despite that I had done this a million times. More crying.
When I had found my spot in the chair, ready to get started and get these off my teeth, boss stopped it all, he wanted to talk first.
Was this what I really wanted, why not try it a little longer, really having me to use my head to answer them. What about the elastics with colors I liked as mush? I could not longer use them if I remove my braces.

Boss is very good at putting things into a perspective. When I answered his questions he explained that it was the ortho phobia speaking now but what about the little ortho inside of me, what did she think?
The ortho inside of me is not happy with this result and want to continue with the treatment.

Boss explained that I needed to get the ortho phobia and the ortho inside of me to meet in the middle, to talk to each other. He suggested that I try braces a few more days and see if this anxiety did get a little better. I could ask him whenever I wanted to remove these braces, even at the weekends and after work, and he would do it. Just give it a few more days.

If I wanted he could remove them now but he would prefer that I waited a few more days, just to see if things would get better. And which I eventually agreed to.

Boss drove me home again, and in the car I asked him if he have had an assistant like me before, with this phobia, which he reply that he had never had an assistant with this phobia before. He must think I´m crazy!!
I did such a great job and was such a great person with our pt, that he would do what he could do to make me like my job. Supporting me was something he would always do.
What a great boss!

He even asked me if I wanted to arrive later for work today, so I could get some sleep. It was almost 12.30 when I arrived home!! 5,5 hours before I needed to get up again for work! But I did not need it.

Re: Can I do it?

Posted: Wed May 15, 2013 11:40 am
by EbonyQ
Today Eric´s clinic called me to ask me if I could come for an appointment today, I guess Eric had read my e-mail!

I was in there for 75 min!! There was a lot of talking for sure, about my treatment, about the anxiety about this and about that. Eric was very happy that I did not remove them.

He asked me if I think about the positive things when I get this these-braces-must-off-anxiety, which I don´t, all I can think of is to get these off and how I can do it. It almost becomes an obsession.

Don´t know how he does it but he somehow always get me to continue my treatment, despite that I was originally set to remove them.

Today he did a “lot” with my braces (a lot to be on my braces but not what is a lot for your braces :roll: ) and for each thing needed to be done he gave me several option, so I could choose which I liked the best.

So I walked out of there with my braces and they are still on. I will give these braces a few more days, I promised boss that and I will keep this promise. The these-need-to-get-off-my-teeth-feeling is still there though...

Re: Can I do it?

Posted: Wed May 15, 2013 12:27 pm
by Angel269
Hi Eb

i commend your determination and before you know it they will be off whern they are supposed to and be finished :-)

Re: Can I do it?

Posted: Thu May 16, 2013 4:09 pm
by EbonyQ
So the debonding I have so long requested happened today.

I asked boss once more if we could remove them and we come up with a compromise. He would debond me but just to give me a break from the anxiety, the braces will be bonded back on in a few days ( I have a lot that needs to be fixed with my bite so he would want them on again).

The reason he agreed to this was because he knew I could not get rid of this thought about debonding, it has been on my mind for so long and he knew that I would not managed to get rid of this thought before something happened. And debonding me now when I agree to get them on again is much better then me waiting too long and wating to remove them for ever.

And he agreed to do it 11 pm! wow! He came to get me at my home, we drove to work, he debonded me, on our way home he gave me a hamburger (eating was a blessing, no food getting stuck on my upper teeth), and drove me home again.

He is the best boss ever! :heart:

So today I it did. He removed my upper braces and I have a “braces break” :lol: Don´t think many people have had that before :roll: .

Wow, they look so huge!! And strange!! It feels so strange to have my lip on my teeth again. And to brush them, wow! It was so easy!

And right now it´s working. I can´t feel any anxiety and the thoughts about debonding is gone.
Maybe this break was something I needed?

I´m so going to enjoy my "braces break"!!! :HugeGrin:

Re: Can I do it?

Posted: Fri May 17, 2013 3:28 am
by whiteswan are very lucky to have such a great boss! I'm glad you are feeling good about this braces break. Are you getting a retainer while you wait? It may be difficulty to put them back on after getting to live with braces teeth for a while but, if you can do it, it might be just what you need to put your brain into reset.

Take some pictures! Lets see your beautiful braceless teeth:)

Re: Can I do it?

Posted: Fri May 17, 2013 3:30 am
by whiteswan
If you are mainly just closing gaps and aligning the bite, would invisalign be an option for you at this point? This way you could give yourself very short temporary breaks when needed (i.e. take an hour off and then back in).

Re: Can I do it?

Posted: Fri May 17, 2013 7:11 am
by SunshineRay
You do have a great boss!
Do you anxiety problems in other areas of your life? I feel so bad for you and your dental issues. :(

Re: Can I do it?

Posted: Fri May 17, 2013 7:23 am
by Mylovedtheeth
You are doing so great! Post some pictures. O my, I'm so jealous :o

Re: Can I do it?

Posted: Fri May 17, 2013 10:06 am
by EbonyQ
Whiteswan: My case is a very complicated one, so invisalign is not an option for me unfortunately.

My lower jaw is too narrow and short, creating an 8 mm overjet and a very strong scissor bite. Got a very deep bite (I almost bite myself in my palate), among other things.

They will be on again on Sunday or Monday, so there are no retainer is needed.
We only debonded canine to canine, I still have brackets on my molars but I can´t feel them at all (just the brackets, not arch wire).

SunshineRay: No, this is the only anxiety I have. I feel sorry for those who have anxiety for common everyday things.

Mylovedteeth: You have only had your braces for 3 months! Not allowed to think about getting them off yet! :wink:

I´m wearing a nation dress today because it´s our national day today!


Re: Can I do it?

Posted: Fri May 17, 2013 10:37 am
by Mylovedtheeth
So beautiful! :D
Actually they may remove my braces. :shock: cause after last antibiotic therapy an opportunist bacteria overgrow in my mouth and I have constant oral mucosa inflammation and braces do not help, they give additional bacteria retention. Currently I'm taking another antibiotic for this bacteria this time. But the doctors says if I have this ones it might return. Really I suffer a lot with this braces. Anxiety and stress additionally lower my immunity. Things are so hard for me. On the other hand as much I hate my braces as I do not want take them off, cause what ? leave this unclosed extractions gap?

Re: Can I do it?

Posted: Fri May 17, 2013 3:40 pm
by whiteswan
Wow!!!!! Looks amazing! Now you know what is ahead of you in your post-braces life. Maybe this will help you have something to visualize for the finish line?

Re: Can I do it?

Posted: Fri May 17, 2013 6:22 pm
by starfish88
Your teeth really do look amazing! Its nice to see a picture and put a face to a name. I always imagined you with black hair because of your name! Then again Klobird looked nothing like how I imagined either! I love your national dress! Enjoy your braces break. How did you find de-bonding. I had some brackets repositioned and it was a bit uncomfortable but maybe it was because my teeth were sensitive. Its impressive you are going through debonding - funny what the anxiety does to us eh? Good luck!

Re: Can I do it?

Posted: Fri May 17, 2013 11:38 pm
by BracedSurgeryStudent
Hey Ebony your teeth are beautiful, I also got my braces off!!!

Re: Can I do it?

Posted: Sat May 18, 2013 10:08 pm
by BracedSurgeryStudent
Hey Ebony, my deep bite was soooo bad I actually did bite into my palate, it was really bad because there's be a huge red bubble there from biting into it.