Metal Mouth Message Board

i'm so angry that i may have to live like this for the rest of my life with a loose jaw. i really hoped my surgery would be sucessful. what did i do wrong, i keep thinking that maybe its my fault. as good as the results are, i still wish i would have not done this surgery. its too much to handle. my surgeon is being an ass, i email him like 4 times a day and he just doesnt seem worried. today he was like your jaw is getting stable, dont worry so much, just a couple more weeks. i'm crying so much right now. i can't deal with this right now. i dont know why this happen.

shanalouis, I mean this in the most supportive way possible....I really think you should find a professional to talk to. You obviously are in a very bad mood about all of this (for good reason, of course), and it seems to me that you feel overwhelmed. If your surgeon is correct, the problem will go away eventually -- but I think you should seek some therapy now to help you cope with this trouble, and deal with all the possible outcomes. I think you have found a very supportive community here, but there is only so much friends can do via the internet (especially considering how few of us here are truly experts in this field). It is very tough to watch you fight and see you feeling that you are not making progress. In my opinion, the most important thing you can do for yourself is develop a plan for how you will handle this unfortunate situation, because quite frankly you seem like you really need a reason to be hopeful right now.

Best of luck,
DRG

I totally agree with DRG...

shanalouis, I don't know where you live, but if you happen to be in the Chicagoland area PM me and I can give you the name of somebody that can help you...

Best of luck, and stay strong!

-Chicago29

i agree, in the most respectful way possible that the OP would probably benefit from counseling.
i was not even really sure what's going on at first as the OP seems to be starting multiple threads all over the place.

and to be honest you're really upsetting not-so-frequent visitors to the board (such as myself) who have surgeries coming up and seeing the board inundated with negative posts with such negative thread titles.

My jaw is finally starting to stay in place and I'm at 11.5 months post-op. In December by jaw was still kind of loose. Give it time- lots of time, it will get better.

sorry if i made anyone feel bad

Hey Shanalouis,

I don't know much about your situation, but I just wanted to say that I don't think that you should have to apologise for making people feel bad! If people were only allowed to post "good" stories then I bet half the people on this board wouldn't be here...

You have been through serious surgery and are having a rough time right now, you have every right to feel angry, upset, worried...

A lot of us on this board have some dealing with orthodontics and surgery, but we're not experts and I really do agree with other posters that it might help for you to talk to someone more experienced.

All you should be doing right now is concentrating on getting better and getting through this. Focus on 'you' right now

Just take a deep breath and remember firstly that it's ok to feel like this, and secondly that it will pass.

Best of luck.

Suzy

Hey Shanalouis,

I have to agree with Suzyscientist. I say vent away. This is not a surgery that should be taken lightly, and readers of this board should be made aware of all possible drawbacks. It's not without its complications, both in the short and longterm.

I would also get a second, third and fourth opinion if your upper arch does not start to firm up. I'm surprised that your surgeon hasn't taken steps to keep you immobile until that bone heals. I suppose he has his reasons. Have you asked? Muscle relaxers to stop teeth grinding seems like a wise move, since, from what I understand, grinding (movement) complicates bone healing. I'm not an expert, just a post-op patient.

Hang in there, and keep asking questions. No apologies necessary.

yeah i know