You may not think they're a big deal, actually I don't either, but just because they are temporary has nothing to do with how we should feel about them. The same argument can be made about ANYTHING we experience in life. Just because there is a conclusion to our experiences doesn't mean we can't be affected by them.My whole point is that they are temporary. It may be four or five years, but it's still something that is going to go away and no longer be a part of someone's life or appearance. As such, I do not think braces are a big deal AT ALL, for a man or woman. I would expect someone with braces, if anyone, to be sympathetic to that.
This kind of epitomizes how i've felt about this board from the beginning. First of all, this discussion is not dumb. The original poster felt bad I think about their love life and wanted some opinions. Secondly you can't always feel good about yourself no matter what, unless you're on drugs. Braces do come and go, but that doesn't mean at some point you won't feel down about it, yourself or everything else.This whole discussion is dumb, we shouldn't be arguing about whether or not braces are attractive/unattractive, because it's more about feeling good about yourself no matter what. Braces will come and go and before you know it will be ancient history.
I just want everyone in this forum to feel good about themselves and to not ever feel like braces can stop them from doing anything. Only you can do that.
Lets be clear, braces aren't a crutch. If you get a C on an exam it's not the braces fault. But when we deal with relationships its a bit different. I've said from the beginning that I think girls with braces have it easier than guys with braces and if you want to go out and feel great about yourself, then go right ahead. But i'm not disregarding the people who might feel bad about their appearance, even though they appreciate what the metal in their mouth is doing for them.
Everyone feels down in the dumps from time to time and that's fine. I think it's wrong to try to avoid it, to try to just think happy thoughts and disregard how you're feeling, or to listen to the somewhat superficial remarks on some of these threads that just try and pad the posters into thinking they're GREAT!! and everything's ok.