Not exactly my kid...
Posted: Sun Dec 11, 2005 12:28 pm
I may be posting this in the wrong section, but I think it fits best here...
I don't have kids, but I'm thinking about paying for my fiancee's braces treatment after mine is completed. Essentally, I will be his support both financially and emotionally. In essence, I will be his mother through the process.
He has really bad crowding on his lowers with a very deep bite. He says that he wants them fixed ("I'd like to have them been already fixed.") but paying for it is simply not feasable to him. He has 3 children of his own and they come before him (child support, supplies, etc... general cost of children - two in their teens!)
I don't have children to "pay" for so me footing the bill is more feasable. Our financial agreement is a bit different than other couples also. We pay our own personal bills (loans, car payments, etc.) but he refuses to let me help with household bills such as utilities and rent. Instead I do what I call "Wal-Mart-ing" for him and his children. He provides shelter and utilities. I provide food and clothing...and cat litter... I do the shopping. It will continue to be this way even after marriage. He tells me that it is how he prefers it, and I accept it as well.
Problem is, I am worried that he will not go through with it. I'm afraid there will be expanders and rubberbands and all kinds of stuff that I am not having to deal with and that he will not tolerate well. It will be a major commitment for him. I'm afraid that he will fuss about it after treatment has began. I am also worried that he will think I WANT him to do it instead of just being supportive of him. I love him reguardless of how his teeth look, but if HE wants them fixed I want to help him. BUT - If I pay for this and he doesn't complete it, or gets upset with me, I will be MAD.
I've tried talking to him about it but he won't really give me any kind of solid answers as to what he wants. It may be a while before it happens anyway, but I'd like to plan. (Probably setting up an FSA after we are married to cover it.)
Does anyone have any input? Thoughts or concerns on the subject?
I appreciate any help you may be able to give.
I don't have kids, but I'm thinking about paying for my fiancee's braces treatment after mine is completed. Essentally, I will be his support both financially and emotionally. In essence, I will be his mother through the process.
He has really bad crowding on his lowers with a very deep bite. He says that he wants them fixed ("I'd like to have them been already fixed.") but paying for it is simply not feasable to him. He has 3 children of his own and they come before him (child support, supplies, etc... general cost of children - two in their teens!)
I don't have children to "pay" for so me footing the bill is more feasable. Our financial agreement is a bit different than other couples also. We pay our own personal bills (loans, car payments, etc.) but he refuses to let me help with household bills such as utilities and rent. Instead I do what I call "Wal-Mart-ing" for him and his children. He provides shelter and utilities. I provide food and clothing...and cat litter... I do the shopping. It will continue to be this way even after marriage. He tells me that it is how he prefers it, and I accept it as well.
Problem is, I am worried that he will not go through with it. I'm afraid there will be expanders and rubberbands and all kinds of stuff that I am not having to deal with and that he will not tolerate well. It will be a major commitment for him. I'm afraid that he will fuss about it after treatment has began. I am also worried that he will think I WANT him to do it instead of just being supportive of him. I love him reguardless of how his teeth look, but if HE wants them fixed I want to help him. BUT - If I pay for this and he doesn't complete it, or gets upset with me, I will be MAD.
I've tried talking to him about it but he won't really give me any kind of solid answers as to what he wants. It may be a while before it happens anyway, but I'd like to plan. (Probably setting up an FSA after we are married to cover it.)
Does anyone have any input? Thoughts or concerns on the subject?
I appreciate any help you may be able to give.