this has got be the lowest point in this journey so far. i am beginning to think whether it is worth at all...
I know that the general attitude on this site and among orthos is that being braced as an adult is no big deal and that being braced only impacts your life if you choose it to do so. At this point this seems to me to be a pot of NLP-and-feel-good-about-yourself BS
!! In the world where I live it is a deal because here an adult with metal in his mouth and gaps from extraction is a monstrosity!
I try and live out the recommended don't-care-about-others-because-I'm doing-this-for-me
approach, but it is not working. Even the most innocent remarks hurt like hell. When coming from friends and colleagues I laugh with them but inside I'm hurt and just want to tear all the metal out of my mouth! When it's a stupid and cruel remark from a stranger I really do not know to respond appropriately. It so easy for them to destoy another person like that and make another person feel miserable. And the worst part is that they get away with it! I really want to hurt somebody making such a remark and make sure that a lesson is learned.
I wonder what other guys with braces do!? Ignoring just is not the way because I can't ignore it!
Sorry to be the party pooper on this forum, but there is a shallow world outside the forum lacking empathy and understanding! Unfortunately.....
Hang in there, it gets better! Like if I bring it up now, my friends will be like: oh I completely forgot you have braces! Seriously, the worst part will just be to meet new people. And gosh, strangers remark on them? That's really weird, and so rude! You should defenetely tell them off!
Gosh, I feel so bad for you when I'm reading your post. You seem so sad:(
Btw: Your English is REALLY good!!
and, I hope you won't take this the wrong way, but I bet the ladies agree with me on this one:
You are very good looking! It's like when Tom Cruise got braces, or Gwen Stephanie for that matter(with metal brackets!), they both still looked very, very attractive!
I feel bad that you were bullied as child, so was I:(
But you have got to see, it was obisouly jealusy! Why would someone bother one, and use up their energy, on someone if they weren't jealus?
Actually, people who in the past were really mean to me(before braces), told me face to face later what they really thought about my looks. And then I understood they wanted to bring me down because they were jealus.
Very cruel, of course, of them to act like that. Cause I truely felt ugly. But It feels good in the end:)
Ok, so hope I'm not being intruding or anything. I guess I'm just very open. It's better that way.
Braces on: March 6th 2007
Both upper and lower metals
Been in braces for: 1 year 15 days
Next adjustment: Feb. 28th- 08
my braces log: http://www.archwired.com/phpbb2/viewtop ... ht=#227971